Non-Judgemental Behaviour is the sixth part of our (Re)building Trust series and the N in the BRAVING acronym.
In this context, and as defined by Brené Brown, Non-Judgemental Behaviour is:
“I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.”
In a nutshell, this is what I, and Tim Clark and many others, see as a key ingredient to psychological safety.
We want to create a safe space for our interactions; somewhere that we both feel safe and supported to express what we need, know that we’ll be listened to, and, if appropriate, our needs might be met.
No one is jumping ahead, making up a story about the situation, about motivations, reasons, actions, next moves.
We’re not forming a judgement.
We keep asking curious questions to understand more, long before we share our view, and in doing so, create our non-judgemental space that builds trust with each other.
This can be created between two people, a group, a team or an entire community.
BUT…
If we’re interacting with someone, and they sense that we’re judging them, well, that’s when trust-building stops, dead in its tracks, and psychological safety goes out the window…pretty sure that is a mixed metaphor but you know what I mean, right? 😊
We are all wonderfully imperfect human beings and we all judge.
We can, all too often, react rather than respond and we all know this rarely creates a psychologically safe space for us or anyone else!
How does it happen so fast?
Well, we let our emotions unconsciously drive our actions.
(Watch my video to find out the steps that stop this happening 🛑)
Especially when the environment feels uncertain, risky or overwhelming, we, as leaders, can put unrealistic pressure on ourselves to know all the answers and we try to construct a situation that feels more certain, more within our control — for us, and those we lead.
But doing this often results in judgement rather than curiosity. Both in what we say and how we say it (verbally or non-verbally!)
While it may feel safer to make things seem certain, black and white, right and wrong, it’s ALWAYS at the cost of our teams and us feeling safe to question this certainty we’ve created.
We don’t learn from, and challenge, that same constructed certainty.
And that starts suffocating agility and innovation — two behaviours which are actually essential to navigate the uncertainty of change.
So, what can you do to model non-judgemental behaviour?
Here are some strategies I go through in my 15 minute Little LIFT video:
Go on, press PLAY ▶️ (at the top of the post) to learn more… and let’s build trust through modelling Non-Judgemental Behaviour.
(Speed me up to chipmunk in the settings, if you need to!)
Enjoy, and see you soon for the last (Re)building Trust BRAVING element, Generous Intent.
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