In conflict, go BIG 💪🏻

Wondering what else we shared in our recent free Braving the Conflict Arena webinar?

Well, you’re in luck because my co-presenter, Dr Samantha Hardy, made a quick clip of this one for you, too!

You can soak up all the conflict goodness in less than a minute (seriously, it’s just 57 seconds — you’re worth 57 seconds to grab this essential conflict takeaway!)

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The Notorious B.I.G.

In conflict, we need to go BIG.

No, not BIG as in: I gotta make this conflict big but B.I.G as in:

Boundaries

Integrity

Generosity

In my training under Dr Brené Brown (yes, THE guru of shame and vulnerability whose TED talks you may have seen), I learned that conflict resolution is all about having boundaries that allow you to stay in your integrity and to be generous.

Without B.I.G, when someone says something in conflict that we don’t like (*raises hand*), we can build a whole righteous, judgmental — and probably untrue — story in our heads rather than just hearing what’s being said inside the conflict. We automatically hear and generate stories from outside which can trigger and limit us in conflict.

Yet, when we put B.I.G. in place, we’re placing boundaries as our initial starting point. This allows us to maintain our integrity and be generous in conflict.

The next time you’re in a conflict situation, go B.I.G, and allow generous intent to develop in your mind — it’s worth it, I promise.

PS: If you’d like to see a full recording of the webinar to get more conflict ”keepers”, just let me know.